Sunday, January 29, 2012
Catching a liar
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Other-Focused Lies are directed at another person and are usually told with the good intention of the deceiver.
Self-Fouced Lies may be directed at any person, but are told for the purpose of benefitting or protecting the person telling the lie.
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Broadly speaking there are 3 response phases after a lie is told.
Phase One: Emotional Response: When a lie is told the liar will feel some form of emotion depending on how serious the lie is. Some people are great at lying because they can detatch from lies and feel no emotion. But most people will feel emotion. These emotions can be fear,guilt, stress or on occasion excitment.
Phase Two: Sympathetic Nervious Response: The impact of guilt,fear or stress on the liar will cause 'decent clues' things like fidgeting,finger tapping, talking too quickly, avoiding eye contact, rapid eye movement, dry mouth ect.
Phase Three: Cognitive Response: When the liar realises the Sympathetic Nervous Resonse and tries to make a counter-measusre. Things like gripping hands to stop finger tapping or making more eye contact because they broke eye contact when lying.
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Recent studies show that 55% of communucating is non-verbal, while 38% is is vocal (how things are said) and 7% is purely verbal.
The same study suggested that we are not designed to catch lies or detect them. A group of neuro-scientists suggested that we aren't built to detect lies because in our primal stages of development we lived in very close quartes (tribes), and cheating and acts like that were not common because you just wouldnt be able to get away with it and if you did you would be outcast or killed.
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MAGIC
This module was built so you could go through the steps and so there was an easy way to remember how to detect lies.
Motivation: does the person have a motivation to lie.
Ask Control Questions, to establish a baseline: When you initally turn on your 'lieradar', observe the verbal and non-verbal responses to Control Questions - ones the person will answer truthfully. This will give you a behavioural baseline. ( same thing is used when you get polygraphed, thats why they ask your name and stuff, to determine your normal heart rate)
Guilt Questions : To identify a liar you need to first provide the opportunityto lie. For this to occur, you must ask a Guilt Question or two - subtly! This is best done in a normal conversation as it denies the opportunity for the person to hide deciet clues from you.
Indicators: Are there lying indicators that stand out to you, fromthe baseline behaviour you observed when asking the Control Questions.
Check again. If you wanna be sure and not look like an idiot repeat those steps and if you get the same response as before (presuming they're lying) then you know they are lying.
Other-Focused Lies are directed at another person and are usually told with the good intention of the deceiver.
Self-Fouced Lies may be directed at any person, but are told for the purpose of benefitting or protecting the person telling the lie.
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Broadly speaking there are 3 response phases after a lie is told.
Phase One: Emotional Response: When a lie is told the liar will feel some form of emotion depending on how serious the lie is. Some people are great at lying because they can detatch from lies and feel no emotion. But most people will feel emotion. These emotions can be fear,guilt, stress or on occasion excitment.
Phase Two: Sympathetic Nervious Response: The impact of guilt,fear or stress on the liar will cause 'decent clues' things like fidgeting,finger tapping, talking too quickly, avoiding eye contact, rapid eye movement, dry mouth ect.
Phase Three: Cognitive Response: When the liar realises the Sympathetic Nervous Resonse and tries to make a counter-measusre. Things like gripping hands to stop finger tapping or making more eye contact because they broke eye contact when lying.
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Recent studies show that 55% of communucating is non-verbal, while 38% is is vocal (how things are said) and 7% is purely verbal.
The same study suggested that we are not designed to catch lies or detect them. A group of neuro-scientists suggested that we aren't built to detect lies because in our primal stages of development we lived in very close quartes (tribes), and cheating and acts like that were not common because you just wouldnt be able to get away with it and if you did you would be outcast or killed.
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MAGIC
This module was built so you could go through the steps and so there was an easy way to remember how to detect lies.
Motivation: does the person have a motivation to lie.
Ask Control Questions, to establish a baseline: When you initally turn on your 'lieradar', observe the verbal and non-verbal responses to Control Questions - ones the person will answer truthfully. This will give you a behavioural baseline. ( same thing is used when you get polygraphed, thats why they ask your name and stuff, to determine your normal heart rate)
Guilt Questions : To identify a liar you need to first provide the opportunityto lie. For this to occur, you must ask a Guilt Question or two - subtly! This is best done in a normal conversation as it denies the opportunity for the person to hide deciet clues from you.
Indicators: Are there lying indicators that stand out to you, fromthe baseline behaviour you observed when asking the Control Questions.
Check again. If you wanna be sure and not look like an idiot repeat those steps and if you get the same response as before (presuming they're lying) then you know they are lying.
Posttraumatic stress disorder
Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a severe anxiety
disorder that can develop after exposure to any event that results in psychological trauma. This event may involve
the threat of death to oneself or to someone else, or to one's own or someone
else's physical, sexual, or psychological integrity,
overwhelming the individual's ability to cope. As an effect of psychological trauma, PTSD is less frequent
and more enduring than the more commonly seen acute stress response. Diagnostic symptoms
for PTSD include re-experiencing the original trauma(s) through flashbacks or nightmares,
avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma, and increased arousal—such as
difficulty falling or staying asleep, anger, and hypervigilance.
Formal diagnostic criteria (both DSM-IV-TR and
ICD-10)
require that the symptoms last more than one month and cause significant
impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
Classification
Posttraumatic stress disorder is classified as an anxiety
disorder, characterized by aversive anxiety-related experiences, behaviors,
and physiological
responses that develop after exposure to a psychologically traumatic event
(sometimes months after). Its features persist for longer than 30 days, which
distinguishes it from the briefer acute stress disorder. These persisting
posttraumatic stress symptoms cause significant disruptions of one or more
important areas of life function. It has three sub-forms: acute, chronic, and
delayed-onset.
Causes
Psychological
trauma
PTSD is believed to be caused by experiencing any
of a wide range of events which produces intense negative feelings of
"fear, helplessness or horror" in the observer or participant.
Sources of such feelings may include (but are not limited to):
- experiencing
or witnessing childhood or adult physical,
emotional, or sexual
abuse;
- experiencing
or witnessing physical assault, adult experiences of sexual
assault, accidents, drug
addiction, illnesses, medical complications;
- employment
in occupations exposed to war (such as soldiers) or disaster (such as emergency service workers);
- getting a
diagnosis of a life-threatening illness; or
Children or adults may develop PTSD symptoms by
experiencing bullying
or mobbing.
Approximately 25% of children exposed to family violence can experience PTSD.
Preliminary research suggests that child abuse may interact with
mutations in a stress-related gene to increase the risk of PTSD in adults.
Multiple studies show that parental PTSD and other
posttraumatic disturbances in parental psychological functioning can, despite a
traumatized parent's best efforts, interfere with their response to their child
as well as their child's response to trauma. Parents with
violence-related PTSD may, for example, inadvertently expose their children to
developmentally inappropriate violent media due to their need to manage their
own emotional dysregulation. Clinical findings indicate that a failure to
provide adequate treatment to children after they suffer a traumatic
experience, depending on their vulnerability and the severity of the trauma,
will ultimately lead to PTSD symptoms in adulthood.
Evolutionary
psychology
Evolutionary psychology views different
types of fears and reactions caused by fears as adaptations
that may have been useful in the ancestral environment in order to avoid or
cope with various threats. Mammals generally display several defensive behaviors roughly
dependent on how close the threat is: avoidance, vigilant immobility,
withdrawal, aggressive defense, appeasement, and finally complete frozen
immobility (the last possibly to confuse a predator's attack reflex or to
simulate a dead and contaminated body). PTSD may correspond to and be caused by
overactivation of such fear circuits. Thus, PTSD avoidance behaviors may
correspond to mammal avoidance of and withdrawal from threats. Heightened
memory of past threats may increase avoidance of similar situations in the
future as well as be a prerequisite for analyzing the past threat and develop
better defensive behaviors if the threat should reoccur. PTSD hyperarousal may
correspond to vigilant immobility and aggressive defense. Complex post-traumatic stress
disorder (and phenomena such as the Stockholm syndrome) may in part correspond to
the appeasement stage and possibly the frozen immobility stage.
There may be evolutionary explanations for
differences in resilience to traumatic events. Thus, PTSD is rare following
traumatic fire which may be explained by events such as forest fires long being
part of the evolutionary history of mammals. On the other hand, PTSD is much
more common following modern warfare, which may be explained by modern warfare
being a new development and very unlike the quick inter-group raids that are
argued to have characterized the paleolithic.
Neuroendocrinology
PTSD symptoms may result when a traumatic event
causes an over-reactive adrenaline response, which creates deep neurological
patterns in the brain. These patterns can persist long after the event that
triggered the fear, making an individual hyper-responsive to future fearful
situations.
PTSD displays biochemical
changes in the brain and body that differ from other psychiatric disorders such
as major depression. Individuals diagnosed with PTSD respond more strongly to a
dexamethasone suppression test than
individuals diagnosed with clinical depression.
In addition, most people with PTSD also show a low
secretion of cortisol
and high secretion of catecholamines in urine, with a norepinephrine/cortisol
ratio consequently higher than comparable non-diagnosed individuals. This is in
contrast to the normative fight-or-flight response, in which both catecholamine
and cortisol levels are elevated after exposure to a stressor.
Brain catecholamine
levels are high, and corticotropin-releasing factor (CRF)
concentrations are high. Together, these findings suggest abnormality in the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal
(HPA) axis.
Given the strong cortisol suppression to dexamethasone
in PTSD, HPA axis abnormalities are likely predicated on strong negative
feedback inhibition of cortisol, itself likely due to an increased sensitivity
of glucocorticoid receptors. Some researchers
have associated the response to stress in PTSD with long-term exposure to high
levels of norepinephrine and low levels of cortisol, a pattern
associated with improved learning in animals.
Translating this reaction to human conditions
gives a pathophysiological explanation for PTSD by a maladaptive learning
pathway to fear response through a hypersensitive, hyperreactive, and
hyperresponsive HPA axis.
Low cortisol levels may predispose individuals to PTSD:
Following war trauma, Swedish soldiers serving in Bosnia and Herzegovina with low pre-service
salivary cortisol levels had a higher risk of reacting with PTSD symptoms,
following war trauma, than soldiers with normal pre-service levels. Because
cortisol is normally important in restoring homeostasis
after the stress response, it is thought that trauma survivors with low
cortisol experience a poorly contained—that is, longer and more
distressing—response, setting the stage for PTSD.
However, there is considerable controversy within
the medical community regarding the neurobiology of PTSD. A review of existing
studies on this subject showed no clear relationship between cortisol levels
and PTSD. Only a slight majority have found a decrease in cortisol levels while
others have found no effect or even an increase.
Neuroanatomy
Regions of the brain associated with
stress and posttraumatic stress disorder
Three areas of the brain whose function may be
altered in PTSD have been identified: the prefrontal
cortex, amygdala,
and hippocampus.
Much of this research has utilised PTSD victims from the Vietnam War. For example,
a prospective study using the Vietnam Head Injury Study showed that damage to
the prefrontal cortex may actually be protective against later development of
PTSD. In a study by Gurvits et al., combat veterans of the Vietnam War
with PTSD showed a 20% reduction in the volume of their hippocampus
compared with veterans who suffered no such symptoms. This finding could not be
replicated in chronic PTSD patients traumatized at an air show plane crash in
1988 (Ramstein, Germany).
In human studies, the amygdala has been shown to
be strongly involved in the formation of emotional memories, especially
fear-related memories. Neuroimaging studies in humans have revealed both
morphological and functional aspects of PTSD.
The amygdalocentric model of PTSD proposes that it
is associated with hyperarousal of the amygdala and insufficient top-down
control by the medial prefrontal cortex and the hippocampus
particularly during extinction. This is consistent with an interpretation of
PTSD as a syndrome of deficient extinction ability. A study at the European
Neuroscience Institute-Goettingen (Germany) found that fear extinction-induced IGF2/IGFBP7 signalling
promotes the survival of 17–19-day-old newborn hippocampal neurons. This
suggests that therapeutic strategies that enhance IGF2 signalling and adult neurogenesis
might be suitable to treat diseases linked to excessive fear memory such as PTSD. Further animal
and clinical research into the amygdala and fear
conditioning may suggest additional treatments for the condition.
Genetics
There is evidence that susceptibility to PTSD is
hereditary. For twin pairs exposed to combat in Vietnam
Recently, it has been found that several single-nucleotide polymorphisms
(SNPs) in FK506
binding protein 5 (FKBP5) interact with childhood trauma to predict
severity of adult PTSD. These findings suggest that individuals with these SNPs
who are abused as children are more susceptible to PTSD as adults.
This is particularly interesting given that FKBP5
SNPs have previously been associated with peritraumatic dissociation (that is, dissociation at the time of the trauma),
which has itself been shown to be predictive of PTSD. Furthermore, FKBP5 may be
less expressed in those with current PTSD. Another
recent study found a single SNP in a putative estrogen response element on ADCYAP1R1
(encodes pituitary adenylate cyclase-activating polypeptide type I receptor or
PAC1) to predict PTSD diagnosis and symptoms in females. Incidentally, this SNP
is also associated with fear discrimination. The study suggests that
perturbations in the PACAP-PAC1
pathway are involved in abnormal stress responses underlying PTSD.
Risk factors
Although most people (50–90%) encounter trauma
over a lifetime, only about 8% develop full PTSD. Vulnerability to PTSD
presumably stems from an interaction of biological diathesis, early childhood
developmental experiences, and trauma severity.
Predictor models have consistently found that
childhood trauma, chronic adversity, and familial stressors increase risk for
PTSD as well as risk for biological markers of risk for PTSD after a traumatic
event in adulthood. This effect of childhood trauma, which is not well
understood, may be a marker for both traumatic experiences and attachment
problems. Proximity to, duration of, and severity of the trauma also make an
impact, and interpersonal traumas cause more problems than impersonal ones.
Military
experience
Schnurr, Lunney, and Sengupta identified risk
factors for the development of PTSD in Vietnam
veterans. Among those are:
- Hispanic
ethnicity, coming from an unstable family, being punished severely
during childhood, childhood asocial behavior, and depression as
pre-military factors
- War-zone
exposure, peritraumatic dissociation,
depression as military factors
- Recent
stressful life events, post-Vietnam
trauma, and depression as post-military factors
They also identified certain protective factors,
such as:
- Japanese-American ethnicity, high school
degree or college education, older age at entry to war, higher
socioeconomic status, and a more positive paternal relationship as
pre-military protective factors
- Social
support at homecoming and current social support as post-military factors.
Other research also indicates the protective effects of social support in
averting PTSD or facilitating recovery if it develops.
There may also be an attitudinal component; for
example, a soldier who believes that they will not sustain injuries may be more
likely to develop symptoms of PTSD than one who anticipates the possibility,
should either be wounded. Likewise, the later incidence of suicide among those
injured in home fires above those injured in fires in the workplace suggests
this possibility.
Foster care
In the Casey Family Northwest Alumni Study,
conducted in conjunction with researchers from the Harvard Medical School in Oregon and
Washington state, the rate of PTSD in adults who were in foster care
for one year between the ages of 14–18 was found to be higher than that of
combat veterans. Up to 25 percent of those in the study meet the diagnostic
criteria for PTSD as compared to 12–13 percent of Iraq
Dubner and Motta (1999) found that 60% of children
in foster care who had experienced sexual abuse had PTSD, and 42% of those who
had been physically abused met the PTSD criteria. PTSD was also found in 18% of
the children who were not abused. These children may have developed PTSD due to
witnessing violence in the home, or as a result of real or perceived parental
abandonment.
Diagnosis
Criteria
The diagnostic criteria for PTSD, stipulated in
the Diagnostic and
Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders IV (Text Revision) (DSM-IV-TR),
may be summarized as:
A: Exposure to a
traumatic event
This must have involved both (a) loss of
"physical integrity", or risk of serious injury or death, to self or
others, and (b) a response to the event that involved intense fear, horror, or
helplessness (or in children, the response must involve disorganized or
agitated behavior). (The DSM-IV-TR criterion differs substantially from the previous
DSM-III-R stressor criterion, which specified the traumatic event should be of
a type that would cause "significant symptoms of distress in almost
anyone," and that the event was "outside the range of usual human
experience.")
B: Persistent
re-experiencing
One or more of these must be present in the
victim: flashback memories, recurring
distressing dreams, subjective re-experiencing of the traumatic event(s), or
intense negative psychological or physiological response to any objective or
subjective reminder of the traumatic event(s).
C: Persistent
avoidance and emotional numbing
This involves a sufficient level of:
- avoidance
of stimuli associated with the trauma, such as certain thoughts or
feelings, or talking about the event(s);
- avoidance
of behaviors, places, or people that might lead to distressing memories;
- inability
to recall major parts of the trauma(s), or decreased involvement in
significant life activities;
- decreased
capacity (down to complete inability) to feel certain feelings;
- an
expectation that one's future will be somehow constrained in ways not
normal to other people.
D: Persistent
symptoms of increased arousal not present before
These are all physiological response issues, such
as difficulty falling or staying asleep, or problems with anger, concentration,
or hypervigilance.
E: Duration of
symptoms for more than 1 month
If all other
criteria are present, but 30 days have not elapsed, the individual is diagnosed
with Acute
stress disorder.
F: Significant impairment
The symptoms reported must lead to
"clinically significant distress or impairment" of major domains of
life activity, such as social relations, occupational activities, or other
"important areas of functioning".
Lying defense
OPPOSITE FIRING
OPPOSITE FIRING TECHNIQUE TO CATCH A LIAR
Ok guys if you are asking me how do I know that I will just answer that my best friend(she) is studying a lot about psychology,especially at women.And I just had a lots of experiences,good and bad,now I will try to help you to understand how liars weapon can be used against him.This will help you to catch someone while lying…These tricks are widely used even during police questioning,so make sure to use it wisely.
Opposite firing technique is a technique which implies using grouply most common features of liars,sorted by gender,against them to catch them into their own net of lies,set them a trap and,if possible,make them to confess the truth.(credits to my best friend for this definition,do not ask me for her name,cause I will not answer)
Now I will specify you some tricks which can help you to catch someone while he/she is trying to lie to you:
MALE LIARS
Ok lets say that you are trying to catch male liar,this tips may help you:
- talk calmly and patiently,if he is trying to interrupt you just continue to talk and make sure to stay calm,with strong focus on your questions
- tell him to look your eyes if he really haven’t done that
- tell him to answer only your questions,not to go around and avoid truth
- if you see that he is nervous in any way,like shaking hands,yawning,distracting attention,scratching…just ask him:”Why are you so nervous when you did nothing?I just don’t get it…”
- pretend that you are not so intelligent as you are,make sure to never show him that you are superior with your intelligence,and never even mention that you know these kinda techniques
- if you spot that he is talking very fast and offensive,just tell him that there is no need to be aggressive and restless,tell him to slow down so you can understand what is he talking :hehe:
- get close to him,hug him,just say there is no need to be afraid,you “trust him he has nothing to do with it”…and in one moment just touch his neck or heart and you will notice that if heartbeat and sweeting level are higher,you will be more reasons to be suspicious
- if he agrees with you,just tell him:”How can you agree with something you haven’t done?”
- if he is answering with your question by question,just say:”I don’t want questions,I want answers.”,and make sure to stay calm,he will fall into your trap
- if he is repeating that you have to believe him,just say:”I don’t understand why are you repeating that word so many times…”,cause in most cases this can be great defensive mechanism
- make sure to follow everything he says,if you have possibility write on a piece of paper or do maximal focusing and remember his words,believe me only if he is a pro liar he will not make any of these mistakes
- the most important is to piss him off with your calmness,males are mostly hard to handle calm persons
- try to ask him same question multiple times,in period of 3-5 minutes,there is a great possibility that he will forget what he said if he is not a pro
- if he wants an explanation,the best answer would probably be:”I asked first,so that means you go first.If you explain me,I will explain you.”
- Never let him lead the conversation,he won’t be able to yell whole time,just be extremely patient and talk normally,try not to raise your voice and especially do not look nervous or argue
- If you notice smile on his face while looking him in the eyes,this could be a sign that something is suspicious,but not necessarily has to mean that he is lying
- If he is on a close distance,make sure to walk around the room or walk back,try to confuse him,for example tell:”Oh,how this room wonderful is!”,or anything that has nothing to do with subject,this will draw his attention
- Tell him to explain you EXACTLY what happened in specific order and how,with as many details as he remember…only if he is professional he will be able to do that
- Ask him some provocative questions,for example:”Why are you scratching your balls?”,”Why are you so nervous?”,”Why are you looking all over the room,you are talking to me,not to the walls?”; and many,many other questions that you will be able to think up…I believe in you,you are smart,I ain’t doubt your intelligence!
FEMALE LIARS
Ok now some suggestions to catch female liar:
- you will need to cut her every time,but never be aggressive…for example if she is saying that you are too aggressive,just say:”I am not aggressive,I am just trying to talk to you…Now can you please tell me what happened?”
Cutting is a mechanism which will not allow you to confront with a liar and feel pitty and sorry for him.It is based on giving answers,asking questions or telling sentences which will disallow any influence on your personality caused by a liar.For example,she may try to avoid conversations,talk around,saying you nice words…pretend that you really ain’t give a fuck what is she saying…and this can be great example of cutting.
- if she is giving you compliments,just say:”We are not here to talk about my look and features.We are talking about…”
- don’t symphatize with her cause she has perfect ass,perfect look,cause she is extraordinary pretty,cause you would f*ck her…forget about that,this can also be their weapon
- if she is touching you,just pretend that you like the touch(in most cases you won’t have to pretend) and then just hug her and make sure to touch her neck or feel heart beat,if it is faster than normal or she is shaking,she is suspicious,than gently unhug her and continue asking,she will think that she influented you,but she didn’t :hehe:,cause you are smarter
- if she is refusing to talk to you,you will have to simulate that you feel sorry for her,that you are sorry for being so rough and so on…you will have to show compassion and similar stuff,but believe me if she refuses to talk,than it is hard,and I cannot guarantee that this will work
Ok guys if you are asking me how do I know that I will just answer that my best friend(she) is studying a lot about psychology,especially at women.And I just had a lots of experiences,good and bad,now I will try to help you to understand how liars weapon can be used against him.This will help you to catch someone while lying…These tricks are widely used even during police questioning,so make sure to use it wisely.
Opposite firing technique is a technique which implies using grouply most common features of liars,sorted by gender,against them to catch them into their own net of lies,set them a trap and,if possible,make them to confess the truth.(credits to my best friend for this definition,do not ask me for her name,cause I will not answer)
Now I will specify you some tricks which can help you to catch someone while he/she is trying to lie to you:
MALE LIARS
Ok lets say that you are trying to catch male liar,this tips may help you:
- talk calmly and patiently,if he is trying to interrupt you just continue to talk and make sure to stay calm,with strong focus on your questions
- tell him to look your eyes if he really haven’t done that
- tell him to answer only your questions,not to go around and avoid truth
- if you see that he is nervous in any way,like shaking hands,yawning,distracting attention,scratching…just ask him:”Why are you so nervous when you did nothing?I just don’t get it…”
- pretend that you are not so intelligent as you are,make sure to never show him that you are superior with your intelligence,and never even mention that you know these kinda techniques
- if you spot that he is talking very fast and offensive,just tell him that there is no need to be aggressive and restless,tell him to slow down so you can understand what is he talking :hehe:
- get close to him,hug him,just say there is no need to be afraid,you “trust him he has nothing to do with it”…and in one moment just touch his neck or heart and you will notice that if heartbeat and sweeting level are higher,you will be more reasons to be suspicious
- if he agrees with you,just tell him:”How can you agree with something you haven’t done?”
- if he is answering with your question by question,just say:”I don’t want questions,I want answers.”,and make sure to stay calm,he will fall into your trap
- if he is repeating that you have to believe him,just say:”I don’t understand why are you repeating that word so many times…”,cause in most cases this can be great defensive mechanism
- make sure to follow everything he says,if you have possibility write on a piece of paper or do maximal focusing and remember his words,believe me only if he is a pro liar he will not make any of these mistakes
- the most important is to piss him off with your calmness,males are mostly hard to handle calm persons
- try to ask him same question multiple times,in period of 3-5 minutes,there is a great possibility that he will forget what he said if he is not a pro
- if he wants an explanation,the best answer would probably be:”I asked first,so that means you go first.If you explain me,I will explain you.”
- Never let him lead the conversation,he won’t be able to yell whole time,just be extremely patient and talk normally,try not to raise your voice and especially do not look nervous or argue
- If you notice smile on his face while looking him in the eyes,this could be a sign that something is suspicious,but not necessarily has to mean that he is lying
- If he is on a close distance,make sure to walk around the room or walk back,try to confuse him,for example tell:”Oh,how this room wonderful is!”,or anything that has nothing to do with subject,this will draw his attention
- Tell him to explain you EXACTLY what happened in specific order and how,with as many details as he remember…only if he is professional he will be able to do that
- Ask him some provocative questions,for example:”Why are you scratching your balls?”,”Why are you so nervous?”,”Why are you looking all over the room,you are talking to me,not to the walls?”; and many,many other questions that you will be able to think up…I believe in you,you are smart,I ain’t doubt your intelligence!
FEMALE LIARS
Ok now some suggestions to catch female liar:
- you will need to cut her every time,but never be aggressive…for example if she is saying that you are too aggressive,just say:”I am not aggressive,I am just trying to talk to you…Now can you please tell me what happened?”
Cutting is a mechanism which will not allow you to confront with a liar and feel pitty and sorry for him.It is based on giving answers,asking questions or telling sentences which will disallow any influence on your personality caused by a liar.For example,she may try to avoid conversations,talk around,saying you nice words…pretend that you really ain’t give a fuck what is she saying…and this can be great example of cutting.
- if she is giving you compliments,just say:”We are not here to talk about my look and features.We are talking about…”
- don’t symphatize with her cause she has perfect ass,perfect look,cause she is extraordinary pretty,cause you would f*ck her…forget about that,this can also be their weapon
- if she is touching you,just pretend that you like the touch(in most cases you won’t have to pretend) and then just hug her and make sure to touch her neck or feel heart beat,if it is faster than normal or she is shaking,she is suspicious,than gently unhug her and continue asking,she will think that she influented you,but she didn’t :hehe:,cause you are smarter
- if she is refusing to talk to you,you will have to simulate that you feel sorry for her,that you are sorry for being so rough and so on…you will have to show compassion and similar stuff,but believe me if she refuses to talk,than it is hard,and I cannot guarantee that this will work
SPOTTING A LIAR
COMMON KNOWLEDGE: It has been said over the years that there are some certain things that help you find out if someone is lying or not. Pupil dialates, heartbeats raise, voice frequency is lowered, etc. The truth is that you can't base on these facts. Why?
Simply because you can't notice any diffenence on an individual. It is not possible to see if one's pupil dialates or not and accusing him of lying cause you just can't, sight does not have the ability to do it. Nevertheless, if you try testing these facts you will either end up making a fool of yourself or mistaken. However, there are more sophisticated ways to spot a liar wich I am going to mention.
MALE/FEMALE: In this guide, I thought that it would be better if I posted different instruction for each sex, since there is a difference between a male and a female liar. Male liars tend to be more anxious when it comes to lying, while females are calmer and handle the situation with a better attitude. We will lok further on it.
~MALE LIAR~
LIAR'S DEFENSES: First of all, the number one defense of a male liar is that he won't let you talk. He is too afraid of your possible uncovering the truth that he will keep distracting you. Another technique is that he holds a close distance with you. He tries to look more friendly and avoids to look at your eyes (that doesn't me that he never looks at them, don't get confused). Also, he may fold his hands to protect himself, but he only does that when you're talking. He doesn't move from his position and most of the time, if he's still calm, he concetrates on something. Other techniques have been mentioned, such as yawning, scratching his head or something similar to show that the subject you are currently talking about is not worrying him as he is sure for what he says. However, these techs are used by not so experienced liars and they almost always get caught.
LIAR'S ATTACKS: Offense for a male liar is his favorite approach. Men, by nature, have a characteristic that women don't; they are much more offensive. So, a male liar has developed a series of attacks that intimidate the slave or scare him/her away. First, he talks much faster than he usually does. It has been proved that talking to a person with a higher pace than normal her/his heartbeats raise and he gets more anxious. Thus, liars do that to scare the slave and also, in some cases, to show their certainty. In addition, a liar always yells. Raising his voice will help him boost his determination and retain himself in a level that can fight you and win. However he tries not to yell at you. What I mean is that he doesn't want you to feel opposed to him, he wants you to move along with him. So, he tries to look friendly and usually smiles. At some points he will even agree with you which is definitely not a good sign. The majority of people are too stubborn to agree with someone they argue with. When that happens, be a little more careful. Moreover, he tries to put a lot of pressure on you. He does that by asking you a lot of questions and being ironic with your answer. He will never try to hurt you, he won't even threat you. All he wants is to believe him and he knows that if he tries to do it he will instantly lose the game. So, he makes you vulnerable, he tires you with his repetative questions, his voice, his words, to that point that you believe him just to end this. He confuses you so much that your brain can't work properly or doesn't work at all, so, to avoid making a fool of yourself or because you think you don't have anything else to say you agree with him. I believe that's all, except some minor details.
COUNTER TECHNIQUES: Let's say the person who tries to deceive you uses some of the above techniques. There are a few things you can do to deflect these moves and use them for your own good. Depending on the situation, you can raise a mental barrier against his attacks. Below there's a list of things you can do on each ofthese possibilities:
* He puts pressure on you:
1. If he talks faster than he usually does, tell him to slow down. Even if he's not doing it on purpose, he will lose his train of thought and it won't be easy to come up with a lie to cover his other lie. So, when you do that, make sure to ask to be more specific, to explain you the situation and either one of these things follow: Either he can't come up with something to cover him and he talks nonsence or he busts himself by uncovering the truth. Thus, there's a realy high chance to counter his attack and win.
2. He might try to press you with a lot of questioning. If he does that, answer to him with questions. Don't be specific -you don't have to be anyway- and he will be pissed off in no time. And when he is pissed off, his mind can't function correctly so he has to get confused. As you may have noticed, the main idea of these counter techniques is to confuse the liar. If you achieve that then you should be able to uncover him. However, don't get complacent with the questions cause you might end up confusing yourself. Just be very patient and things will work out.
3. There is a chance that he will try to ask you to explain things to him. It's not that he doesn't understand what you're saying, he just wants to annoy you. If that happens (although most of the time it doesn't) there's not realy a counter tech you can use. This is more like a tip for you. Whatever it is he wants it to be explained just explain to him. When he sees that his move isn't working he'll drop it and try other ways to press you.
* He intimidates you:
1. The first move that the liar thinks intimidates you the most is raising the tone of his voice. Men have been proved to be the most egocentric species on the planet (I don't think that anyone of you denies this). Thus, if one's voice is the only one that can be heard he thinks that he is some kind of a leader to the conversation. Anyways, if he tries to yell you can either yell more or tell him to quiet down. I suggest the latter cause it shows that you're the calm one and that you have no concerns about the argument. In addition, if you tell him to quiet down he himslef will feel that he's overreacting and then, the fact that he's lying will be easier to spot. Nevertheless, if he yells more after your interference, you should consider the possibility that he might be telling the truth. So, be more cautious on that part.
2. Staring somebody's eyes is always intimidating. Even if you are not scared, subconciously you feel threatened. If he tries to stare at your eyes (since we said that it's unlikely to do that for that long, except if he's an experienced liar) you should stare at his eyes too. Try to reflect this fear that he tries to pass on and you will achieve that either if he looks away or he laughs. This may sound weird but laughing is most commonly what betrays liars. If he laughs, I can guarantee that he is lying. Shit, I'll even chop my dick off and throw it on a volcano if he isn't. It's that simple; he laughs, he's lying.
3. If he's holding a close distance with you, you can always walk back, in a way that he doesn't understand why you're doing it. For example, you can pretend that you have a shoelace to tie, a book to lift, etc. You will think of something. However, what I do and I absolutely recommend it is to tell a joke. Not any joke though, you can't say: "Which animal can jump higher than a house? All, houses can't jump". You can try things like "Are you gonna kiss me?" or "I can smell your breakfast". Yeah, I know, the house joke was lame.
* He confuses you:
1. I can assure you this is not an attack a liar will rely on. He may try that if he's desperate but he will most likely fail. This method is about being very general. He will refuse to be more specific and he will talk just to confuse you. However, this is a suicide technique cause you can easily find ou that he's lying. One little mistake and he's done. So, using confusion as his main attack is not something you will encounter.
WHAT BLOWS HIS COVER:
Below there's a list in which there are several things that you have to remember if you want to spot a liar without getting in the whole Attacking/Counter-Attacking process. These tips will help you turn your suspicions into a decision and they are very important. So, the best thing you can do is memorize them.
NOTE: This list is only for inexperienced liars, experienced liars will not make these mistakes.
1. Missing his words.
2. Shaking his voice.
3. Constantly moving
4. Avoiding looking at your eyes AT ALL.
5. Keeping a long distance from you (it makes him feel safer).
6. Studdering
7. Making nervous moves.
-e.g.- My father once had to lie to one of his patient's sons and I can't tell you how nervous he was. He pulled the safety belt so fast that it actually stuck. Thank God the guy was too stupid to understand he was lying.
8. Scratching. Scratching his head, hand, chest, stomache, etc, is definitely a sign. Except of scartching his balls.
~FEMALE LIAR~
LIAR'S DEFENSES: Women use different techniques to defend themselves. This is due to their nature, they tend to be more soft and sensitive. Thus, they try to look defensless (which is kind of ironic) and make you believe that you're putting a lot of pressure on them. Doing that makes you feel guilty and you sympathize with the liar. When you do that, it's almost certain that you're going to be deceived, so be careful not to hit their defenses.
Another common defense female liars use is "dead silence". They just stop talking to you. There's a procedure after that in which, if you're not careful, you're gonna get screwed:
[1] Liar stops talking to you.
[2] You keep asking her questions. Again she's not talking.
[3] You get irritated but you put that "I'm so pissed right now" smile on your face.
[4] You're realy angry and you start yelling. She keeps ignoring you.
[5] You're starting to understand that the only way to get her to talk to you is be softer and sympathize with her. So, you do it.
Those in red are the dangerous parts, be extremely cautious. I recommend you put your ego aside and just stop talking too.
NOTE: This method is only used when female liars are convinced that you have kind of understood that she's lying.
LIAR'S ATTACKS: The attacking technique most commonly used by female liars is alluring. By using their feminine nature they manipulate you to believe everything they say. Now, I'm not implying that they just talk and you agree to everything they say. Certain SE skills are required to use this advantage, otherwise they're just going to fail real hard.
What female liars do is use their attractiveness to make you nervous. This doesn't necessarily include looks, even their attitude can be alluring. Let's say your belief is a stronghold which will try to block any attack. Now, male liars will just attempt to break the door. However, female liars are more sneaky, they will explore the stronghold in circles until the find a little whole where they can penetrate to your stronghold. Once in, the only thing left to do is cut the rope that holds the door. After that it's all over.
COUNTER TECHNIQUES: I have mentioned what female liars do to attack your psychological stronghold. Now, there are a few things you can do to counter-attack them and keep yourself clear for any further attacks. Be very cautious though, cause this is more like a psychological war, you must be prepared to lose.
* She tries to allure you:
Don't take any shit. She will mostly try to copliment you, commend on your clothes, eyes, hands etc before she starts talking to you. However, it's very difficult for her to do it without you questioning whether shes kissing ass or not. So, my tip is take everything as asskissing. Don't offend her, just hold an ironic stance against her. Show that you're not falling for anything and, every now and then, tell her to get to the point. She will see that you're not playing game and she'll try to find a new way to convince you. However, it's gonna be very difficult for her since you reflected her main attack.
You should better work on that CT cause you have the highest chances to beat the liar and keep yourself clean.
* She tries to look helpless:
When she does that, your reaction trully depends on your character. If you're not that soft, you can always tell her to stop. Showing that you don't care how pitiful she is will make her stop trying. However, you may be the soft character and, subconciously, sympathize with her. For your own good, DO NOT FALL INTO THAT TRAP. Always remember that she's doing it on purpose, she wants to make you vulnerable. That's a rule you should never break.
WHAT BLOWS HER COVER:
Below there's a list in which there are several things that you have to remember if you want to spot a liar without getting in the whole Attacking/Counter-Attacking process. These tips will help you turn your suspicions into a decision and they are very important. So, the best thing you can do is memorize them.
NOTE: This list is only for inexperienced liars, experienced liars will not make these mistakes.
1. Staring at your eyes.
2. Constantly smiling.
3. Touching your hand or chest.
4. Putting her hair behid her ears. It shows she's nervous with the situation and can't cope with lying.
5. Moving her body without moving her position.
6. Missing her words.
7. Shaking her voice.
8. Studdering.
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That's all for now, feel free to add anything you feel it needs to be added.
COMMON KNOWLEDGE: It has been said over the years that there are some certain things that help you find out if someone is lying or not. Pupil dialates, heartbeats raise, voice frequency is lowered, etc. The truth is that you can't base on these facts. Why?
Simply because you can't notice any diffenence on an individual. It is not possible to see if one's pupil dialates or not and accusing him of lying cause you just can't, sight does not have the ability to do it. Nevertheless, if you try testing these facts you will either end up making a fool of yourself or mistaken. However, there are more sophisticated ways to spot a liar wich I am going to mention.
MALE/FEMALE: In this guide, I thought that it would be better if I posted different instruction for each sex, since there is a difference between a male and a female liar. Male liars tend to be more anxious when it comes to lying, while females are calmer and handle the situation with a better attitude. We will lok further on it.
~MALE LIAR~
LIAR'S DEFENSES: First of all, the number one defense of a male liar is that he won't let you talk. He is too afraid of your possible uncovering the truth that he will keep distracting you. Another technique is that he holds a close distance with you. He tries to look more friendly and avoids to look at your eyes (that doesn't me that he never looks at them, don't get confused). Also, he may fold his hands to protect himself, but he only does that when you're talking. He doesn't move from his position and most of the time, if he's still calm, he concetrates on something. Other techniques have been mentioned, such as yawning, scratching his head or something similar to show that the subject you are currently talking about is not worrying him as he is sure for what he says. However, these techs are used by not so experienced liars and they almost always get caught.
LIAR'S ATTACKS: Offense for a male liar is his favorite approach. Men, by nature, have a characteristic that women don't; they are much more offensive. So, a male liar has developed a series of attacks that intimidate the slave or scare him/her away. First, he talks much faster than he usually does. It has been proved that talking to a person with a higher pace than normal her/his heartbeats raise and he gets more anxious. Thus, liars do that to scare the slave and also, in some cases, to show their certainty. In addition, a liar always yells. Raising his voice will help him boost his determination and retain himself in a level that can fight you and win. However he tries not to yell at you. What I mean is that he doesn't want you to feel opposed to him, he wants you to move along with him. So, he tries to look friendly and usually smiles. At some points he will even agree with you which is definitely not a good sign. The majority of people are too stubborn to agree with someone they argue with. When that happens, be a little more careful. Moreover, he tries to put a lot of pressure on you. He does that by asking you a lot of questions and being ironic with your answer. He will never try to hurt you, he won't even threat you. All he wants is to believe him and he knows that if he tries to do it he will instantly lose the game. So, he makes you vulnerable, he tires you with his repetative questions, his voice, his words, to that point that you believe him just to end this. He confuses you so much that your brain can't work properly or doesn't work at all, so, to avoid making a fool of yourself or because you think you don't have anything else to say you agree with him. I believe that's all, except some minor details.
COUNTER TECHNIQUES: Let's say the person who tries to deceive you uses some of the above techniques. There are a few things you can do to deflect these moves and use them for your own good. Depending on the situation, you can raise a mental barrier against his attacks. Below there's a list of things you can do on each ofthese possibilities:
* He puts pressure on you:
1. If he talks faster than he usually does, tell him to slow down. Even if he's not doing it on purpose, he will lose his train of thought and it won't be easy to come up with a lie to cover his other lie. So, when you do that, make sure to ask to be more specific, to explain you the situation and either one of these things follow: Either he can't come up with something to cover him and he talks nonsence or he busts himself by uncovering the truth. Thus, there's a realy high chance to counter his attack and win.
2. He might try to press you with a lot of questioning. If he does that, answer to him with questions. Don't be specific -you don't have to be anyway- and he will be pissed off in no time. And when he is pissed off, his mind can't function correctly so he has to get confused. As you may have noticed, the main idea of these counter techniques is to confuse the liar. If you achieve that then you should be able to uncover him. However, don't get complacent with the questions cause you might end up confusing yourself. Just be very patient and things will work out.
3. There is a chance that he will try to ask you to explain things to him. It's not that he doesn't understand what you're saying, he just wants to annoy you. If that happens (although most of the time it doesn't) there's not realy a counter tech you can use. This is more like a tip for you. Whatever it is he wants it to be explained just explain to him. When he sees that his move isn't working he'll drop it and try other ways to press you.
* He intimidates you:
1. The first move that the liar thinks intimidates you the most is raising the tone of his voice. Men have been proved to be the most egocentric species on the planet (I don't think that anyone of you denies this). Thus, if one's voice is the only one that can be heard he thinks that he is some kind of a leader to the conversation. Anyways, if he tries to yell you can either yell more or tell him to quiet down. I suggest the latter cause it shows that you're the calm one and that you have no concerns about the argument. In addition, if you tell him to quiet down he himslef will feel that he's overreacting and then, the fact that he's lying will be easier to spot. Nevertheless, if he yells more after your interference, you should consider the possibility that he might be telling the truth. So, be more cautious on that part.
2. Staring somebody's eyes is always intimidating. Even if you are not scared, subconciously you feel threatened. If he tries to stare at your eyes (since we said that it's unlikely to do that for that long, except if he's an experienced liar) you should stare at his eyes too. Try to reflect this fear that he tries to pass on and you will achieve that either if he looks away or he laughs. This may sound weird but laughing is most commonly what betrays liars. If he laughs, I can guarantee that he is lying. Shit, I'll even chop my dick off and throw it on a volcano if he isn't. It's that simple; he laughs, he's lying.
3. If he's holding a close distance with you, you can always walk back, in a way that he doesn't understand why you're doing it. For example, you can pretend that you have a shoelace to tie, a book to lift, etc. You will think of something. However, what I do and I absolutely recommend it is to tell a joke. Not any joke though, you can't say: "Which animal can jump higher than a house? All, houses can't jump". You can try things like "Are you gonna kiss me?" or "I can smell your breakfast". Yeah, I know, the house joke was lame.
* He confuses you:
1. I can assure you this is not an attack a liar will rely on. He may try that if he's desperate but he will most likely fail. This method is about being very general. He will refuse to be more specific and he will talk just to confuse you. However, this is a suicide technique cause you can easily find ou that he's lying. One little mistake and he's done. So, using confusion as his main attack is not something you will encounter.
WHAT BLOWS HIS COVER:
Below there's a list in which there are several things that you have to remember if you want to spot a liar without getting in the whole Attacking/Counter-Attacking process. These tips will help you turn your suspicions into a decision and they are very important. So, the best thing you can do is memorize them.
NOTE: This list is only for inexperienced liars, experienced liars will not make these mistakes.
1. Missing his words.
2. Shaking his voice.
3. Constantly moving
4. Avoiding looking at your eyes AT ALL.
5. Keeping a long distance from you (it makes him feel safer).
6. Studdering
7. Making nervous moves.
-e.g.- My father once had to lie to one of his patient's sons and I can't tell you how nervous he was. He pulled the safety belt so fast that it actually stuck. Thank God the guy was too stupid to understand he was lying.
8. Scratching. Scratching his head, hand, chest, stomache, etc, is definitely a sign. Except of scartching his balls.
~FEMALE LIAR~
LIAR'S DEFENSES: Women use different techniques to defend themselves. This is due to their nature, they tend to be more soft and sensitive. Thus, they try to look defensless (which is kind of ironic) and make you believe that you're putting a lot of pressure on them. Doing that makes you feel guilty and you sympathize with the liar. When you do that, it's almost certain that you're going to be deceived, so be careful not to hit their defenses.
Another common defense female liars use is "dead silence". They just stop talking to you. There's a procedure after that in which, if you're not careful, you're gonna get screwed:
[1] Liar stops talking to you.
[2] You keep asking her questions. Again she's not talking.
[3] You get irritated but you put that "I'm so pissed right now" smile on your face.
[4] You're realy angry and you start yelling. She keeps ignoring you.
[5] You're starting to understand that the only way to get her to talk to you is be softer and sympathize with her. So, you do it.
Those in red are the dangerous parts, be extremely cautious. I recommend you put your ego aside and just stop talking too.
NOTE: This method is only used when female liars are convinced that you have kind of understood that she's lying.
LIAR'S ATTACKS: The attacking technique most commonly used by female liars is alluring. By using their feminine nature they manipulate you to believe everything they say. Now, I'm not implying that they just talk and you agree to everything they say. Certain SE skills are required to use this advantage, otherwise they're just going to fail real hard.
What female liars do is use their attractiveness to make you nervous. This doesn't necessarily include looks, even their attitude can be alluring. Let's say your belief is a stronghold which will try to block any attack. Now, male liars will just attempt to break the door. However, female liars are more sneaky, they will explore the stronghold in circles until the find a little whole where they can penetrate to your stronghold. Once in, the only thing left to do is cut the rope that holds the door. After that it's all over.
COUNTER TECHNIQUES: I have mentioned what female liars do to attack your psychological stronghold. Now, there are a few things you can do to counter-attack them and keep yourself clear for any further attacks. Be very cautious though, cause this is more like a psychological war, you must be prepared to lose.
* She tries to allure you:
Don't take any shit. She will mostly try to copliment you, commend on your clothes, eyes, hands etc before she starts talking to you. However, it's very difficult for her to do it without you questioning whether shes kissing ass or not. So, my tip is take everything as asskissing. Don't offend her, just hold an ironic stance against her. Show that you're not falling for anything and, every now and then, tell her to get to the point. She will see that you're not playing game and she'll try to find a new way to convince you. However, it's gonna be very difficult for her since you reflected her main attack.
You should better work on that CT cause you have the highest chances to beat the liar and keep yourself clean.
* She tries to look helpless:
When she does that, your reaction trully depends on your character. If you're not that soft, you can always tell her to stop. Showing that you don't care how pitiful she is will make her stop trying. However, you may be the soft character and, subconciously, sympathize with her. For your own good, DO NOT FALL INTO THAT TRAP. Always remember that she's doing it on purpose, she wants to make you vulnerable. That's a rule you should never break.
WHAT BLOWS HER COVER:
Below there's a list in which there are several things that you have to remember if you want to spot a liar without getting in the whole Attacking/Counter-Attacking process. These tips will help you turn your suspicions into a decision and they are very important. So, the best thing you can do is memorize them.
NOTE: This list is only for inexperienced liars, experienced liars will not make these mistakes.
1. Staring at your eyes.
2. Constantly smiling.
3. Touching your hand or chest.
4. Putting her hair behid her ears. It shows she's nervous with the situation and can't cope with lying.
5. Moving her body without moving her position.
6. Missing her words.
7. Shaking her voice.
8. Studdering.
________________________________________
That's all for now, feel free to add anything you feel it needs to be added.
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