NLP Techniques - Stalking

Stalking is a fascinating NLP technique to calibrate your client to notice when they are just getting into non-useful' state, like over tired or exhausted - when it's still early enough to do something about it.

It also teaches them to be open to signals when their 'subconscious' is telling them to change their behaviour.

Stalking - What's important

Have your client build a really strong sanctuary state and work to improve it. Remember it's their's to take with them!

Have your client move with energy back to the sanctuary state - nothing wimpish.

Stalking - The technique

Have your partner find a behaviour that they want to change, something that they tend to get engrossed in or something that involves a response that happens very quickly. They key to finding the right behaviour for this exercise is that it happens either too quickly or too slowly for them to notice that its happening until its too late.

Have your partner imagine a sanctuary state that they can retreat to at any time during this exercise. This will be a state or memory that is very resourceful, relaxing or protective for them. Have them create a bubble around this state and notice the location of this state in the room so that you can help your partner return to it at any time.

Have your partner imagine seeing themselves across the other side of the room, engaged in this activity. Have them place the image at a distance they're comfortable with. Now, help your partner to slowly approach the behaviour, walking slowly forward until they start to feel an uncomfortable or undesirable response. As soon as they start to feel any response, have them step immediately into the sanctuary state.

When they're ready have them step out of the sanctuary step and move closer to the problem behaviour. Continue moving forward, using the sanctuary state when necessary, until they can approach the problem behaviour and stand very close to it.

Now, have your partner describe the problem behaviour and anything they can do to change it.